It is a myth widly perpetrated by TV and Hollywood that every young woman dreams of a white wedding.
In fact, it actually goes further and suggests that applies to any woman, even those that are of more advanced years, when they are getting married.
As part of your wedding planner training, you'll be helped to seethrough some of the associated myths including this one.
The ancient folk links between the concept of the white wedding and the color of virginity are well-known and may centuries ago have had some very deep meaning. Perhaps even wellinto the mid-20th century there was a firm cultural association of a white wedding with bridal innocence but the sexual revolution of the 1960s started to put paid to those associations and many would argue that they had greatly disappeared .
It's also worth keeping in mind that not all cultures share the view that white is the natural wedding color for a bride. As the world became increasingly global and multi-cultural, the absolute necessity of a white wedding was even further questioned.
Increased gender equality even further ridiculed the idea that a woman must somehow declare her 'status' through her choice of dress when a man had no such obligation.
In the 21st century, at least in western cultures, there is much more recognition of the nature of the wedding being something that is derived by the purely personal preferences of the bride and groom rather than religious or social diktat. If, for example, at one time a white bridal gown would have been treated with derision on a woman marrying for a second or hidden time, today nobody would notice or care.
So, given that you are now no longer constrained by what other people wedding or not?
One of the first things to keep in mind is that, contrary to some beliefs to the contrary, a white wedding does not necessarily have to be more expensive than any other form of ceremony. Anybody who suggests that a white wedding dress is, by definition considerably more expensive than a designer-label suit, has clearly not purchased too much up-market female clothing!
Then there are the trappings.
It is perfectly possible to have a civil marriage, a white wedding dress and a reliably small-scale reception. You do not need to get half of the population of your near city to attend and be surrounded by numerous horse-drawn carriages before you can put on that white dress.
The fact that you have a white wedding dress does not necessarily mean that you need to take on the administrative overhead and high cost of paying for equally exotic outfits for your bridesmaids. In fact, do you really need bridesmaids at all?
The bottom line here is simple. If you want to have a white wedding dress then you can make a decision based on your own preferences and owe nobody else any explanations or apologies. It does not necessitate that you have a very large and formal wedding either.
Equally if you wish to get married in any other form of clothing then once again that is entirely up to you. You will not be letting anyone down or selling yourself short by doing so.
If you have any doubts you can talk to a specialist with wedding planning certification but the message is clear.
Do what feels right to you!